Why I hate the "I can't" phrase

Let me share some personal details about my life so you can have a bit of context on why I hate the "Can't do" phrase. When I was born in the late 70s my umbilical cord was wrapped around my neck several times cutting oxygen from my brain. After hours of labor the Dr decided to do a c-section and discovered what was happening, I was already cyanotic and suffered some brain damage. As I grew older it was evident I was not learning as fast as other kids in school, the part of my brain that helps me concentrate was affected and learning something took twice the effort and time for me that the other kids, it still takes me a while and re-reading something several times to get it to sink in.

Thankfully I have a mother that never gave up and did not take the advice from the Drs and kept me in a regular school. Every day she could she would sit down with me, remove all distractions from the area as much as she could and we would go thru the lessons of the day several times over, she would make me re-write the notes, recite them and when I fought it a leather belt came in to play to get me back on track (She feels like she mistreated me by spanking me but without it I would not be where I am today). I suffered from Leukemia as a child and had to be in a hospital for a long time getting chemotherapy and my parents where always there thru it supporting, making my days fun and making sure I read and rehearsed my school fundamentals.
She made sure I participated on all sports, activities and organizations she could find and make me stick with them. Being from a military family where several of the males on my fathers side served I had a fascination with it, so my father let me subscribe to the Military Book Club, I bought each month 2 books that I would pay for by doing extra chores around the house and I would read them again and again until I had the whole picture, that feed my appetite for learning. As I grew her lessons and fundamentals have stuck with me specially the part of not giving up and the hard lesson that without action there is no reward.

To this day a lot of my life is like someone having control of a TV remote and changing the channel constantly with new pictures appearing in front of my eyes, my mind wonders and starts thinking of a lot of thing minus what I have in front and requieres me to refocus again. It is a constant battle that I have learned to managed and control. So when I see a person tell me "I cant", "It is to difficult" or any other like it, it makes me angry. The main reason it makes me angry is because they are not spent at the end of a day of keeping my attention and focus on track and still I have to say I'm proud of all I have achieved and them without the same problem complain. Don't complain without trying, catch your self and stop saying negative stuff, you are sabotaging yourself. Don't do it.

Look at it this way if a guy like me can be decent at his profession, contribute a bit to tech communities and be happy you do a lot more than me.

Let me share the lessons I learned from my parents and the community:

• Think positive.
• Don't complain without having tackling the issue first.
• Don't cut corners and try to do things right.
• Practice the basics of what you what to master constantly.
• Teach and share with joy and not for ego.
• Get out of your confort zone and push your self.

So don't sabotage your self.